As a psychologist I focus on stress, resilience, and humanitarian work. As an author I write fiction, memoirs, and books about relationships. As a mother, I take a lot of deep breaths and pray for patience...

I still get confused when people ask me about home. Raised in Australia, Bangladesh, the States, and Zimbabwe, I have also lived in Indonesia, the Philippines, Croatia, and Laos. I am currently living in Vanuatu…


The journey to Vanuatu began with writing letters to someone in Papua New Guinea (and that is such a great story that I wrote a memoir about it). Before that, however …

In Australia, I worked as a forensic psychologist with the state police, in a maximum-security men’s prison, and on a child death review team.

In Croatia, I worked with the Organization for Security and Co-operation in Europe as a stress management trainer.

In Indiana, I earned a masters degree in International Peace Studies at Notre Dame University.

In Los Angeles, I directed the Headington Institute‘s training and education programs, providing psychological support services to humanitarian workers around the world.

In Laos, while my husband was hard at work for a humanitarian organization, I lazed in a hammock by the Mekong River and drank mango smoothies. (At least, that is what I sometimes fantasized about doing while I was busy working as a consultant psychologist, writing my next book, managing the Modern Love Long Distance website, or preventing my two little boys from drinking out of the dog’s water bowl.)

Here in Vanuatu, in the aftermath of the largest cyclone to ever hit the nation, I am still finding my feet (and spending an inordinate amount of time trying to find things like carrots, eggs, and bananas in the markets).


If you’re looking for …


Books: Check out Love At The Speed Of Email. Awarded an Honorable Mention by Writer’s Digest in 2013, fellow authors have praised this memoir as “a modern-day fairytale” and a “travel memoir with a deep soul”.

Information on long distance relationships: Go to Modern Love Long Distance – a website devoted to sharing stories and providing quality resources and tools to help people thrive in long distance relationships

Information on humanitarian work and psychology: Check out this collection of links to resources on stress, trauma and resilience.

Blog posts about our family’s journey with cancer last year. Start here.

If you’re just browsing around: Drop by the blog and say hello. I blog as the spirit seizes me on things that cross my path–love, life in the South Pactific, parenting, cancer, resilience, writing, and rats in the roof (literal and metaphorical). Stick around, I’d love to hear some of your rat stories, too.


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