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Are You Excited?

Posted by on Jan 23, 2015 in Life in Laos | 7 comments

Are You Excited?

It used to be that the question that stumped me was, “where’s home for you?” It took three years and a memoir, but I finally made my peace with that word home after we moved to Laos. Now the question that’s leaving me tongue-tied and bewildered is different. It’s, “Are you excited?” I’ve been asked this question at least half a dozen times this week. We’re moving, you see—to Vanuatu, in the South Pacific. We’re going to live on an island, in a town where cruise ships dock. We’re essentially going to live in a...

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This Season Of Leaving

Posted by on Jan 12, 2015 in Life in Laos | 3 comments

This Season Of Leaving

Laos is beautiful this time of year. During these three months it’s easy to forget how oppressive I find the heat during the rest of the year. But it was deliciously cool this morning as I walked through the streets of downtown. The Mekong glowed in the early light. Tuk tuk drivers shrugged and smiled as I declined their offers. I thought—as I’ve thought many times since we made the decision to move—that there are many things I will miss about this country. I know this move is a good decision for us. Mike will be taking on a Country...

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A Quick Look At 2014

Posted by on Dec 29, 2014 in Miscellaneous | 3 comments

A Quick Look At 2014

If I had to pick a phrase that captured this year it might be “sudden change”. We started this year facing a massive change, and now we’re ending it in the midst of another. Last New Years Eve found us on board a plane that had just taken off from Bangkok airport. Mike had been diagnosed with cancer 72 hours earlier and life had changed on a dime. We were heading back to Australia for surgery and treatment. We didn’t know then that Mike’s cancer was already stage two/three, that he would need three rounds of BEP chemo, and that we...

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50 Best Tips on Making Your Long Distance Relationship Work

Posted by on Oct 28, 2014 in Long distance relationships | 0 comments

50 Best Tips on Making Your Long Distance Relationship Work

For a while now, behind the scenes, I’ve been working on an exciting new resource for my side gig… a page where you can find a whole lot of the best information out there on how to make your long distance relationship work, all in one place.   That page goes live today! Follow this link or click on the image at the bottom of this post to check it out.   Friends, can you please help me get the word out by sharing a link to the tips page? My aim in creating this page was to draw together excellent articles and other great resources...

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Memories Of A Million Footsteps: Return To Luang Prabang

Posted by on Oct 14, 2014 in Life in Laos | 4 comments

Memories Of A Million Footsteps: Return To Luang Prabang

Last week we returned to Luang Prabang for the first time since we left, more than a year ago. Those of you who have visited Luang Prabang will know what I mean when I say it’s a special place. Those of you who haven’t, imagine a small town nestled in between two rivers and cradled by jungle-covered mountains. Imagine gold-gilded temples meets old-world French architecture. Imagine orchids and saffron-robed monks and sticky rice steaming in small bamboo baskets. We didn’t own a car during the three years we lived in Luang Prabang, so...

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Size Matters And Other Things To Love About Vientiane

Posted by on Aug 25, 2014 in Life in Laos, Posts with photos | 5 comments

Size Matters And Other Things To Love About Vientiane

You guys, I am driving in Vientiane. I know this might not sound like a big deal but, trust me, it is. Our driver has been very sick, so I’ve had little choice but to face my fears and tackle the rutted roads. And when I say rutted, I am in no way exaggerating. It’s the middle of the rainy season and you pretty much need a four-wheel-drive to get down the road to our house. This is what happened on our lane (three times) the other day to some unwary trucks… And while we’re showing random photos, this is a woman fishing in the rice...

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It’s LAUNCH DAY for my next book… From Stranger To Lover

Posted by on Jul 28, 2014 in Writing | 1 comment

It’s LAUNCH DAY for my next book… From Stranger To Lover

When it comes to long distance relationships, most people believe that they’re destined to fail, especially if you start your relationship at a distance. In this case, however, most people are wrong. The internet has re-shaped many aspects of life, including dating. As Mike and I (and many other couples) have proved, you can build a true connection with someone even while you’re far apart. However, it’s a lot easier to do this if you: Know how to spot and avoid some common pitfalls of long distance dating Establish healthy boundaries...

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The Courage To Say Yes

Posted by on Jul 24, 2014 in Parenting | 0 comments

The Courage To Say Yes

When I told Marianne I’d write a post about the courage to say yes, I had it all planned out. I was going to start the piece by referencing saying “no.” There would be a brief anecdote about how my two-year-old’s main mission in life seems to be finding new and creative ways to provoke me into using that very word. Then I’d talk about how my inbox is full of people telling me to “Say No, No, No All The Way To Success,” and how my new book, From Stranger To Lover, looks at how the dynamics of meeting someone online conspire to...

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The Courage of Goodbye

Posted by on Jul 22, 2014 in Miscellaneous, Psychology, Writing | 0 comments

The Courage of Goodbye

Today I’m delighted to host a guest post from my good friend, Marianne Elliott. I first connected with Marianne around the time she published her thoughtful, vulnerable, memoir about spending time in Afghanistan (Zen Under Fire: How I Found Peace In The Middle Of War) . I love Marianne’s writing, and I know many of you will resonate with her topic today – saying goodbyes. Despite all the practice I’ve had, I have a ways to go in this area! You can find out more about Marianne on her website, here. I’ve had to say a...

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Guess What?? (Long Distance Love Take Two)

Posted by on Jul 15, 2014 in Long distance relationships | 4 comments

Guess What?? (Long Distance Love Take Two)

When Mike was diagnosed with cancer just before New Years, we pressed the “pause” button on a lot of things in life – Mike’s work, my work, and our time here in Laos. During the last six weeks we’ve begun, slowly, to move forward in all of these areas again. We are back in Laos, Mike is back at work, and now I am starting to pick up the reigns of some of my own projects again. Among other things, that means moving forward with my work on long distance relationships, and guess what???   I’m thrilled to announce that my long...

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