Lisa and Mike dialogues

Words In The Waiting

Posted by on Mar 14, 2015 in Lisa and Mike dialogues | 5 comments

Words In The Waiting

Last night was horrendous. I’m quite sure it wasn’t as awful for me as it was for Mike and his colleagues as they bunkered down in a small room at the back of the house in Port Vila and wondered whether the walls would withstand the wind, but it was still pretty bad on my end. I was up until 11pm and then again at 3am when a small visitor marched into my bedroom and climbed into bed with me. I spent those wee dark hours analyzing the storm track maps and reading the weather geek chatter on chat boards. I live-streamed tweets tagged with #tcpam. I repeatedly refreshed the search term...

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Love Letters on our “Cancerversary”

Posted by on Jan 24, 2014 in Lisa and Mike dialogues, Mike's cancer journey | 15 comments

Love Letters on our “Cancerversary”

  Dear Lisa, Five years ago today we stood in front of family and friends and we vowed to share with each other life’s joys and sorrows, pleasures and pains from that day forward until death did us part.  I guess it goes without saying that I never expected to spend this anniversary sitting next to you in a Cancer Treatment Centre.  This morning as the sun was rising above the ocean, I looked at the slideshow of photos you put together from our first five years.  Tears came to my eyes several times.  You know how it’s possible to increase the color saturation of photos to make them...

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Conversations we’ve been having lately

Posted by on Jun 25, 2013 in Lisa and Mike dialogues | 2 comments

Conversations we’ve been having lately

(With my parents. After returning from a rare dinner out with a bunch of girlfriends to find my child safely fed, in bed, and sound asleep) Me: “Ah, I like living here. I could just stay and live here forever.” Mum: “I have news for you – no you can’t.”   (With Mike, via skype at 9am my time, 6am his time) Mike (still in bed and half asleep): “I like this little routine we have of talking first thing in the morning.” Me: “Yeah. Cuz let’s face it, having a nice leisurely talk first thing in the morning is not something we usually do at home. This way, you get to have...

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Rewired: Mama brain

Posted by on Oct 20, 2012 in Lisa and Mike dialogues | 4 comments

Rewired: Mama brain

It’s baby bath time. I’m sitting on the toilet lid. Mike is perched on a small stool. Dominic is sitting in his little plastic tub, playing. As Mike and I are chatting, Dominic tries to squeeze water out of his toy duck, fails, and lets out a sudden, shrill screech of rage and frustration that is loud enough to be heard in China. Me: “Dominic!! Really! Totally unnecessary.” Mike: “Dominic, every time you make that sound you take ten minutes off your mama’s life because she thinks you’re being eaten by vultures. You’re right here, she can see you, and it still makes her think...

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Horse or donkey?

Posted by on Oct 11, 2011 in Lisa and Mike dialogues | 9 comments

Horse or donkey?

We’re in Melbourne for a couple of days so that we can show baby bear to the officials at the US consulate and apply for his passport. It’s been a lovely couple of days packed full of last minute life admin tasks and meeting up with good friends. One of our biggest problems when we come to Melbourne is always lack of time. There are so many people here that we know and love that we never have as much time as we want to visit with them all and have long and leisurely catch ups. Another big problem for me – a more serious one – is the traffic. City driving has never been...

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Tones

Posted by on Aug 2, 2010 in Lisa and Mike dialogues | 1 comment

Tones

This past weekend Lisa and Mike went on an adventure to buy a thank you gift. There was some initial disagreement over how much they should spend. Mike: “But I like giving people more than what they expect.” Lisa (choosing, for once, affection over argument): “You give me more than what I expect.” Mike: “And just look at all the rewards I reap from that.” (Pause while Lisa tries to figure out whether or not she is being mocked.) Lisa: “There better not have been any sarcasm in your tone there, young man.” Mike: “Lao has six tones, honey. And we both know that you’re not...

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“That” dog

Posted by on Jul 19, 2010 in Lisa and Mike dialogues | 3 comments

“That” dog

This morning, as he sometimes does, Mike woke up before 5am. In an effort to avoid disturbing me, he decided to go outside and sit on the balcony. At about 6 he came and crawled back into bed. “Did you hear the dog?” he asked. At this point I may have said something uncomplimentary about that dog. Profane, even. I could feel Mike smiling in the darkness. “Is it that scruffy little sod? That mangy cur?” I asked. “The one that sits in the street next door looking miserable all day long? Is that the pre-dawn howler?” “Yeah,” Mike said. “That one. Want to hear something...

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Breakfast at Joma

Posted by on Jul 13, 2010 in Lisa and Mike dialogues | 12 comments

Breakfast at Joma

This is a shot in one of my favorite places in Luang Prabang so far, Joma. Joma of cinnamon buns and lattes and, even more importantly, AC and wifi. Earlier this week, Mike and I had an early morning breakfast there as per our current routine. In the background Ella Fitzgerald was playing Let’s Fall In Love. Mike: “Oh, honey, we have the place all to ourselves.” Lisa: “Yup, just the two of us having a romantic breakfast. The two of us, with our two laptops in between us.” Mike: “Just like most of the rest of our relationship so...

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Second wife

Posted by on May 29, 2010 in Lisa and Mike dialogues | 3 comments

Second wife

On his first trip to Laos for his job interview in January, Mike was warned that should we move to Laos he would be encouraged by many locals (in fact, expected) to take a Laotian wife. Mike sent Lisa one post-card during that trip. It was of an elderly Laos woman smoking a cigar. All that was written on the back was: “Check out your competition for wife number two.” Since getting to Laos in April Mike has indeed been encouraged to take a Laotian wife. Mike: “The district governor I met with today said you were beautiful when I showed him our wedding photos. Then, later in the meeting,...

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Thoughtfullness points

Posted by on May 14, 2010 in Lisa and Mike dialogues | 2 comments

Thoughtfullness points

Mike’s never been to the Hollywood Bowl. Lisa went online to see if there was anything scheduled for the first week of June when he’s back, but alas. Performances don’t start until about the 12th. Later, on a skype date… Lisa: “I tried to do something special for you today. It didn’t work, but I’m going to tell you about it anyway so I get some ‘thoughtfulness points’.” Mike: “Uh, OK. I think you just lost some points there by telling me that’s what you were doing.” Lisa: “I may have lost a few of the...

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