Third Culture Kids

My childhood experiences that will sound strange to my kids

Posted by on Mar 5, 2012 in Parenting, Third Culture Kids | 5 comments

My childhood experiences that will sound strange to my kids

This post was supposed to go up on Friday but, ironically, the internet went down and stayed down for almost two days. Why ironic? Well … The summer before we moved to Laos, Mike and I met both sets of our parents in Alaska and we all did the inner-passage cruise together. We learned something about our parents on that trip, something that shocked us. Only one of the four of them had an indoor toilet in their house when they were born. I know, sort of hard to imagine, right? During that week we spent more than one dinner talking about childhoods. All four of them grew up on farms. Mike grew...

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Stories we tell our grandchildren

Posted by on Feb 3, 2011 in Third Culture Kids | 8 comments

Stories we tell our grandchildren

It’s been a busy week on this side of the world. I’m juggling two consulting projects from the kitchen table here in Laos, both for clients in London. One of the projects is reviewing training material for workshops running in Sudan and Chad next week. Sudan, incidentally, is where my father headed off to for two months yesterday on his own consulting project. The world seems very small sometimes. Well, except when you’re flying across the Pacific – then it seems enormous. Or when you stop and think about the fact that your immediate family is once again scattered over four...

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Speaking of families…

Posted by on Sep 13, 2010 in Parenting, Third Culture Kids | 8 comments

Speaking of families…

Last week I wrote about the extended iterative dialogue that it takes to co-ordinate a McKay family holiday (or a trip to town to get bread for lunch). When Mike read the post that night he laughed. “That’s ten conversations and four emails you put out before I emailed my parents about this,” he said. There were at least two reasons for this. The first of those is that Mike is considerably busier than I am at present. The second is something I’ve learned since getting married… [Drum roll, please] Not all family systems operate the same way. I know, it’s a total revelation, isn’t...

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Family Planning

Posted by on Sep 9, 2010 in Parenting, Third Culture Kids | 13 comments

Family Planning

This week Mike and I have been trying to lock down an itinerary for December. We hadn’t planned on going anywhere this December – we decided we’d had quite enough travel in the last eight months, and we’d already been in Australia and Washington DC several times during the last couple of years. No, we were going to enjoy having our feet on the ground and the coolish weather in Luang Prabang (they promise me that it is coming). This Christmas we were absolutely, definitely, staying put. Unfortunately, though, we have good friends. Regrettably, a couple of them (yes, you, Tristan and...

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Pebbles, insults, and memories

Posted by on Aug 18, 2010 in Funny, Third Culture Kids | 16 comments

Pebbles, insults, and memories

Something awesome happened today. Chip MacGregor, literary agent extraordinaire, called my book a “cult hit” on his blog. But that wasn’t the only awesomeness in his post. He also reproduced a letter he’d received from someone who’d sent him an unsolicited proposal. He wrote her a brief note saying that he didn’t think there was a market for her book, and she sent him back a letter saying, “Destruction? Is that not your very identity? Your cruelty oozes…You should be immensely worried about who you are… Believe it or not, Chippy, you’re a pebble, like all of us.”...

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