Posts Tagged "family"

Tiny funny things

Posted by on Jul 18, 2013 in Funny | 0 comments

Tiny funny things

Some moments that have made me laugh lately. To set the scene: Mike is currently house-sitting for friends of ours in Vientiane who own a very affectionate cat that is often around begging to be petted when I’m on Skype with Mike. I’m in my bedroom dialing Mike. Dominic is playing on the floor. Me: “Dominic! Look who’s on Skype!! It’s Daddy!!”Dominic (runs over and climbs into my lap. He looks delighted … and then confused): “Cat?” Mike: “Hi Dominic!!!”Me: “It’s Daddy, do you want to say hello to Daddy??”Dominic (completely ignoring Mike): “Cat? Cat?”Mike...

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Leaving On A Jet Plane

Posted by on Jan 28, 2013 in Life in Laos | 27 comments

Leaving On A Jet Plane

 The same weekend that Love At The Speed Of Email launched, way back in June last year, Mike and I learned that we’d be leaving Luang Prabang in April 2013. Mike’s position is being handed over to a Lao national staff member, which is good. Working yourself out of a job is exactly what you want to do in international development work, and Mike’s great at that sort of capacity building. So this is a good thing, and we always knew we wouldn’t be here long term. And, yet. There’s a difference between knowing you won’t be somewhere long term – that you might be moving in “oh, a...

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Sending out an SOS

Posted by on Aug 14, 2012 in Life in Laos | 11 comments

Sending out an SOS

We traveled back to Laos from Thailand last Wednesday, a week after Mike’s surgery. Three suitcases, three carry-ons, a stroller, a baby, and a husband who couldn’t lift anything. It was special. Actually, it was pretty special because so many people helped us along the way. The check-in staff heaved our suitcases around, friendly strangers carried hand luggage on and off the plane for us, and an office driver met us at the airport. He not only handled all the heavy stuff there but also carried it upstairs for us once we reached the house.   I’m not used to being in the position of...

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Family moments across the miles

Posted by on Dec 30, 2011 in Travel | 1 comment

Family moments across the miles

7:40 this morning, just after I get out the shower, skype rings on my laptop. It’s my grandparents, playing with their brand new iPad. When I answer, my grandparent’s living room pops up and I can see my mother and grandfather peering, puzzled, straight into the camera. Me: “Hello?” Pa: “Now how do you…” Me: “Hello?” Mum: “Don’t press that one!” Me: “Hello? Can you hear me?” Pa: “Well, where’s the other little thing?” Me: “Hello? Did you call me?” Mum: “It’s somewhere down the bottom there.” Me: “You called me accidentally, didn’t you. And you...

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Making hard choices about priorities

Posted by on Nov 9, 2011 in Writing | 4 comments

Making hard choices about priorities

Wow, this week is so turning out to be zero steps forward and five steps backwards. What happened to my relatively content child who, when sleepy, was usually happy to be placed in his crib with his stuffed rabbit? Who is this little being who refuses to be put down, who wants to be walked and sung to sleep instead? Who wakes up jumpy ten minutes into a nap? Who stays awake long past his bedtime and seems perpetually hungry? And why did his father decide that this was the perfect week to take a two-day trip up to remote villages in the north?? It’s Wednesday though, so here goes with a few...

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Looking Like Love: A Letter To My Parents

Posted by on Sep 29, 2011 in Parenting | 15 comments

Looking Like Love: A Letter To My Parents

It’s been five months since I stepped off the plane from Asia, roundly pregnant at 28 weeks, and saw you both there waiting for me and smiling. The hills here were green, the cool air smelled of wet eucalyptus and the pancakes that we stopped for on the way home were heaped with berries, tiny crimson waterfalls falling from the stack. As I unpacked in this bedroom later that morning I thought that five months seemed like an eternity. So many milestones in life had to come and go before I would depart – Mike’s arrival after ten weeks apart, the baby’s arrival, then...

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Breaking news

Posted by on Jul 28, 2011 in Pregnancy | 10 comments

Breaking news

No. The baby hasn’t come yet. Yes, I’m grumpy about that (though not yet quite as grumpy as I still am about the fact that apparently he won’t be arriving via the international terminal at Gold Coast airport but via a significantly smaller and much less efficient terminal located closer to home – like just south of my bellybutton). No, he’s not even technically due for another twelve days and he stayed inside as commanded until Mike arrived, so I know I have no real right to be unimpressed with his lack of interest in relocating but I am anyway. So anyone who’s tempted to leave me...

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Family talk about the memoir

Posted by on Jun 16, 2011 in Writing | 17 comments

Family talk about the memoir

It started shortly after I arrived here four weeks ago. Mum was asking me where I was up to with my next book, and I told her that my agent, Chip, had it and was getting ready to send it to interested publishers next month. “And how many of those are there?” She asked. “I don’t exactly know,” I said. “But he said there are at least half a dozen people who’d like to see the full manuscript when we’re ready.” Mum looked… well, “doubtful” is too strong a word. More like “slightly confused.” “But… why?” She asked. “What do you mean, why?” I repeated. “Well...

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Writing about loved ones – to do or not to do, that is the question

Posted by on May 18, 2011 in Writing | 22 comments

Writing about loved ones – to do or not to do, that is the question

So I’m in Australia, after a long journey from Laos that had its ups and downs. We’ll get to those later this week, but first let me stop and say how lovely it is to be here at McKay’s Pregnancy Resort and Spa. It’s sunny but cool, the dawn light is gilding the bank of clouds out to sea, and there are no roosters. Oh, and the shower is kick ass. My parents, despite some teasing, seem quite happy for me to base myself here for the next five months. They have, however, tried to impose one condition upon my stay. “We’ll raise your rent,” my Dad said over ricotta pancakes and lattes...

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Speaking of families…

Posted by on Sep 13, 2010 in Parenting, Third Culture Kids | 8 comments

Speaking of families…

Last week I wrote about the extended iterative dialogue that it takes to co-ordinate a McKay family holiday (or a trip to town to get bread for lunch). When Mike read the post that night he laughed. “That’s ten conversations and four emails you put out before I emailed my parents about this,” he said. There were at least two reasons for this. The first of those is that Mike is considerably busier than I am at present. The second is something I’ve learned since getting married… [Drum roll, please] Not all family systems operate the same way. I know, it’s a total revelation, isn’t...

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