Posts Tagged "long distance relationship"

Reunions

Posted by on Jul 22, 2011 in Travel | 8 comments

Reunions

In the three and a half years we’ve known each other, Mike and I have spent at least 3 weeks apart nine times now. When Mike was still living in PNG there was the three months apart right after we started dating and three and a half more after we got engaged. There were four month-long overseas consultancies Mike did during our first year of marriage. We spent about half of the first six months of last year apart before our move to Laos. And then there’s been this last ten weeks. Mike will arrive into the Gold Coast tomorrow morning at about 7:30am, so when I haven’t been wondering...

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A skype date at 37 weeks pregnant

Posted by on Jul 19, 2011 in Pregnancy | 18 comments

A skype date at 37 weeks pregnant

“How are you?” Mike asked me last night via skype. “I’m grumpy,” I said. “Why are you grumpy?” Mike said. “I don’t know. Why are you in Laos?” I said. Mike stops to puzzle this over for a few seconds, then decides not to engage on that front. “Well, tell me about today,” he said. “I talked to Jenn and Robin by skype. I lay down for a while. I read. I went to the chiropractor. I made an apple and rhubarb crumble. We had pizza for dinner. We watched TV,” I said, outlining a day most people might consider nearly perfect in its restfulness. The problem, as I went on to...

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Inflection points

Posted by on May 15, 2011 in Life in Laos | 16 comments

Inflection points

Yesterday morning, right after we got up, I did my weekly weigh in. Apart from one ultrasound in Thailand, taking pregnancy vitamins and stepping on the scale every Saturday morning has pretty much been the sum total of my prenatal care. I suspect that my return to Australia tomorrow is likely to mark the inflection point on this issue (though I must say I haven’t minded avoiding some of the tests that sound like they’re a routine part and parcel of the first 28 weeks if you live within, oh, 500km of good medical facilities). After I stepped off the scale and Mike stepped on, it quickly...

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Rewriting, third drafts, feedback, and elevator pitches (in summary)

Posted by on Apr 28, 2011 in Writing | 14 comments

Rewriting, third drafts, feedback, and elevator pitches (in summary)

I decided to give myself the day off consulting work today and tackle the last chapter of the memoir rewrite instead. 73,276 words later I have a full third (or, uh, tenth or thereabouts) draft! I still don’t have a good title, but never mind. The marketing team came up with my hands came away red for my first novel and I loved it. Titles don’t seem to be my forte, and I’m hoping someone out there will be similarly inspired for this book. That assumes, of course, that this book ever goes to print. I’ve been reading a lot of writing blogs lately and one thing is for sure, everything is...

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When Helping is Hard (Part 1): That sort of decision

Posted by on Sep 29, 2010 in Humanitarian work | 4 comments

When Helping is Hard (Part 1): That sort of decision

This story starts in May. In May, Mike was in Laos in the middle of his first seven weeks at his new job. I was in LA wrapping up my own job. Mike was trying to find his feet in a new place and in a new life. I was trying to disengage from familiar people and a familiar life. We were in very different places – not just physically – and as we spent my evenings and Mike’s early mornings talking via skype, I frequently found myself feeling torn. I did want to hear the honest truth about how things were in Laos and try to support Mike through the first shockwaves of this change. But as I...

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Love Long Distance

Posted by on Mar 24, 2009 in Lisa and Mike dialogues | 0 comments

It’s my birthday tomorrow, and I can tell you something I won’t be doing… talking to my husband. No, we’re not fighting. He’s in Papua New Guinea. Yes, again. It’s been ten days since we got back from Australia, eight days since our Los Angeles wedding reception, and six days since he left for a about a month to do a consultancy with Oxfam. I’m relearning what it’s like to be alone, which is exactly the lesson every new bride longs to learn two months after her wedding. To be perfectly honest, there’s something to be said for alone. Reading late at night and a whole bed...

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