Posts Tagged "love"

Love Letters on our “Cancerversary”

Posted by on Jan 24, 2014 in Lisa and Mike dialogues, Mike's cancer journey | 15 comments

Love Letters on our “Cancerversary”

  Dear Lisa, Five years ago today we stood in front of family and friends and we vowed to share with each other life’s joys and sorrows, pleasures and pains from that day forward until death did us part.  I guess it goes without saying that I never expected to spend this anniversary sitting next to you in a Cancer Treatment Centre.  This morning as the sun was rising above the ocean, I looked at the slideshow of photos you put together from our first five years.  Tears came to my eyes several times.  You know how it’s possible to increase the color saturation of photos to make them...

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A great new resource for people in long distance relationships

Posted by on Jun 26, 2013 in Long distance relationships | 3 comments

A great new resource for people in long distance relationships

I’ve been working behind the scenes for a while now on a new website for people in long distance relationships. Now that I’ve made the (perhaps crazy?) decision to launch this website before I launch my next child (fingers crossed on that front, anyway) I can tell you more. First, I’ve set a launch date! Modern Love Long Distance will go live on Wednesday July 17! The site will share stories and provide quality resources and tools to help people thrive in long distance relationships. This is a venture I’m really excited about. An increasing number of people are finding themselves in...

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For love or money

Posted by on Aug 16, 2012 in Writing | 5 comments

For love or money

A friend sent me a tweet recently that said … Bad writing day? Probably not this bad: http://www.salon.com/2012/06/27/my_book_was_a_bad_idea/ This article in Salon tells the story of someone who quit her job to write a book that didn’t sell – a book she came to believe was a bad idea, written for the wrong reasons and in the wrong spirit. It is a raw and honest piece. One part, in particular, jumped out at me. Here, she is writing about the process of writing her book: “…for most of that time I was not working because I was an artist who must write or die, or because I was a...

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More than a brighter shade of happiness

Posted by on Dec 23, 2011 in Parenting | 12 comments

More than a brighter shade of happiness

“What have you been thinking about joy recently?” Mike asked me over lunch the other day. “I’ve been thinking about that research suggesting that people are happier before they have children,” I said. “And about how happiness and joy are different.” “Are you going to write the easy post about how you often feel less happy on a moment to moment basis since Dominic’s birth, but you have more joy in your life?” Mike asked. “No,” I said. “Because, although I would like to think that this is true, I’m not actually sure that it is.” Despite the fact that joy is the...

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From love to joy

Posted by on Nov 7, 2011 in Life in Laos | 8 comments

From love to joy

Last Wednesday I talked about how the arrival of one baby coincided with the death of a dream (at least temporarily) for another. During the first six weeks of Dominic’s life, doors with traditional publishers continued to close one after another. I received a lot of positive feedback from editors about my writing and the book, but no one was willing to take a risk on it in the current publishing climate. It was difficult not to let this disappointment dominate my thinking or taint the joys that other areas of my life were handing me. When it comes to compliments and criticism, most people...

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The Most Versatile Word in the English Language

Posted by on Oct 24, 2011 in Parenting | 10 comments

The Most Versatile Word in the English Language

In these bodies we will live In these bodies we will die Where you invest your love, you invest your life (Mumford and Sons) Love: What wells up when Dominic flashes a wide, gummy grin of delight when I bend down and speak to him. Love: How I feel about the chocolate ice cream that AB Bakery has just started making. Yes, folks, we may not have incredibly reliable electricity, but there’s now some good ice cream in town. Love: The fact that Mike, despite feeling completely exhausted, dragged himself out of bed at 5:15 this morning, took our flapping, squawking child and our whimpering dog...

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Things to love about coming home

Posted by on Oct 17, 2011 in Life in Laos, Posts with photos | 8 comments

Things to love about coming home

We’ve been back 48 hours, and I’m way too tired to write anything deep on the current theme of love, so I thought I’d just offer a look at things I’ve loved about being back so far… The power went out before 9am the first morning we were back, so instead of unpacking and organizing necessities like change tables and diapers we spent three hours mostly trying to stay cool. Well, Mike and I tried to stay cool. Crazy baby didn’t want to lie on the tiles for some reason so he lay on Mike and sweated his way into a bad mood. A really bad mood. Oh, wait. I was supposed to be talking...

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Looking Like Love: A Letter To My Parents

Posted by on Sep 29, 2011 in Parenting | 15 comments

Looking Like Love: A Letter To My Parents

It’s been five months since I stepped off the plane from Asia, roundly pregnant at 28 weeks, and saw you both there waiting for me and smiling. The hills here were green, the cool air smelled of wet eucalyptus and the pancakes that we stopped for on the way home were heaped with berries, tiny crimson waterfalls falling from the stack. As I unpacked in this bedroom later that morning I thought that five months seemed like an eternity. So many milestones in life had to come and go before I would depart – Mike’s arrival after ten weeks apart, the baby’s arrival, then...

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The most important quality in a marriage (2)

Posted by on Sep 27, 2011 in Life in Laos | 3 comments

The most important quality in a marriage (2)

This post is a continuation of the discussion we began on Friday about the most important quality in a marriage. Below is an excerpt from the memoir I am working on. It recounts a conversation Mike and I had via skype before we got engaged, when he was  in PNG and I was in LA. …Even when we were talking, on our carefully scheduled skype dates, it wasn’t guaranteed to be smooth and happy sailing. Occasionally we’d be talking away easily one minute only to find ourselves mired in a messy miscommunication the next. Or we’d be laughing and a moment later one of us would have...

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Love the feeling, love the action

Posted by on Sep 16, 2011 in Parenting | 8 comments

Love the feeling, love the action

This post is part of a series on the fruits of the spirit. The current theme is love. Three weeks after Dominic was born and two days before Mike left for Laos again, Mike and I went out to dinner at the Bangalow pub. I can tell I am not one of these women who is going to struggle to tear myself away from her baby to go on date nights – I finished the feed, tossed him into my Mum’s arms, wriggled into jeans for the first time in nine months, set my watch for two and a half hours and trotted happily out the door. Over a delicious dinner Mike and I talked about what the month apart would...

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