Posts Tagged "marriage"

Love Letters on our “Cancerversary”

Posted by on Jan 24, 2014 in Lisa and Mike dialogues, Mike's cancer journey | 15 comments

Love Letters on our “Cancerversary”

  Dear Lisa, Five years ago today we stood in front of family and friends and we vowed to share with each other life’s joys and sorrows, pleasures and pains from that day forward until death did us part.  I guess it goes without saying that I never expected to spend this anniversary sitting next to you in a Cancer Treatment Centre.  This morning as the sun was rising above the ocean, I looked at the slideshow of photos you put together from our first five years.  Tears came to my eyes several times.  You know how it’s possible to increase the color saturation of photos to make them...

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Leaving On A Jet Plane

Posted by on Jan 28, 2013 in Life in Laos | 27 comments

Leaving On A Jet Plane

 The same weekend that Love At The Speed Of Email launched, way back in June last year, Mike and I learned that we’d be leaving Luang Prabang in April 2013. Mike’s position is being handed over to a Lao national staff member, which is good. Working yourself out of a job is exactly what you want to do in international development work, and Mike’s great at that sort of capacity building. So this is a good thing, and we always knew we wouldn’t be here long term. And, yet. There’s a difference between knowing you won’t be somewhere long term – that you might be moving in “oh, a...

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From love to joy

Posted by on Nov 7, 2011 in Life in Laos | 8 comments

From love to joy

Last Wednesday I talked about how the arrival of one baby coincided with the death of a dream (at least temporarily) for another. During the first six weeks of Dominic’s life, doors with traditional publishers continued to close one after another. I received a lot of positive feedback from editors about my writing and the book, but no one was willing to take a risk on it in the current publishing climate. It was difficult not to let this disappointment dominate my thinking or taint the joys that other areas of my life were handing me. When it comes to compliments and criticism, most people...

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The most important quality in a marriage (2)

Posted by on Sep 27, 2011 in Life in Laos | 3 comments

The most important quality in a marriage (2)

This post is a continuation of the discussion we began on Friday about the most important quality in a marriage. Below is an excerpt from the memoir I am working on. It recounts a conversation Mike and I had via skype before we got engaged, when he was  in PNG and I was in LA. …Even when we were talking, on our carefully scheduled skype dates, it wasn’t guaranteed to be smooth and happy sailing. Occasionally we’d be talking away easily one minute only to find ourselves mired in a messy miscommunication the next. Or we’d be laughing and a moment later one of us would have...

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What is the most important quality in a marriage?

Posted by on Sep 23, 2011 in Life in Laos | 18 comments

What is the most important quality in a marriage?

This post is part of a series on the fruits of the spirit. The current theme is love. Mike and I are three weeks into this latest separation and it hasn’t felt like a good week for us on the Laos-Australia skype date front. We are managing to talk most nights, but by the time 8:30 or 9 rolls around I am… let’s go for a an elegant understatement here… a little bit tired. This fatigue, and my daily routine at present, don’t exactly make me the most fascinating conversationalist. The start of last night’s conversation, for example, went something like...

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Breastfeeding lessons from cows, take two

Posted by on Aug 31, 2011 in Funny, Pregnancy | 18 comments

Breastfeeding lessons from cows, take two

This post is an addendum to one of my favorite posts from the last year, Life lessons in pregnancy and breastfeeding from cows. 5AM this morning: Me: “Dominic!!” Mike: “What’s he doing?” Me: “He’s latching on repeatedly, sucking nicely once or twice, then tossing his head from side to side before yanking backwards – still holding on, mind you – until my nipple finally pops out of his mouth. Then he opens his eyes wide in panic and lunges forward like a small, desperate, vacuum cleaner until he finds it again.” Mike: “Do you want me to tell you what the cows on the farm...

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Marital Misunderstandings and Utopia

Posted by on Apr 4, 2011 in Life in Laos | 10 comments

Marital Misunderstandings and Utopia

Successfully navigating that “getting started on Monday morning after a lovely weekend” speed bump is a lot easier when you have an office to go to, I’ve decided. Oh, and when coffee doesn’t taste like rat droppings. I miss my morning caffeine. I have already pushed past the initial resistance to doing anything remotely resembling hard work once this morning. But now, an hour and a half down the track, I find myself stuck. I’ve finished editing one chapter and I’m just not sure where to take the next. So a break. Or a blog post. Same thing, really. After a week of unusually chilly...

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Life lessons on pregnancy and breastfeeding from cows

Posted by on Mar 10, 2011 in Funny, Pregnancy | 35 comments

Life lessons on pregnancy and breastfeeding from cows

I still remember the moment, about two months after we were married, when the cows made their first appearance in the discourse of our relationship. I can’t remember what we were debating now, but it led to the following exchange. “You know who you remind me of?” Mike asked in a tone of mingled frustration and admiration. “Ivy, our second smartest cow on the farm when I was growing up.” “What?” I said. “Who was the smartest cow?” “That was Emmy. She was awesome. She was the sweetest cow ever, so bright, and so gentle. She was the queen matriarch of the herd. All the other...

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Birthday Presents and Love Languages

Posted by on Mar 4, 2011 in Life in Laos | 6 comments

Birthday Presents and Love Languages

It’s Mike’s birthday today, which thankfully I remembered one fuzzy minute after I woke up. “Happy birthday,” I said, as he placed ginger tea and a plate full of mango and dragon fruit by the bed at 7am. (Sidenote: Ginger tea from Laos could be successfully marketed internationally as a morning sickness remedy, I do believe. So if any of you out there are looking to fund a social enterprise project, there’s a thought). “So,” I said, as Mike got dressed for work. “Do you want your birthday present now, or tonight?” “Tonight,” he said, his mind already mostly in the...

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Two years ago today

Posted by on Jan 24, 2011 in Miscellaneous, Posts with photos | 22 comments

Two years ago today

Two years ago today Mike and I put on fancy clothes and stood up in front of many people that we love and made a whole bunch of very serious promises about, essentially, loving one another. It was a wonderful, glorious, happy-filled, day that still makes me smile when I think of it. To be honest though, it wasn’t all bubbles and champagne that day. I threw my back out the morning of the wedding, forgot to put together a reception run-sheet for our long-suffering MC’s, Emma and Asha, until four hours before the ceremony, and felt more serious and stressed out than giddy and love-struck...

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