Posts Tagged "Mike"

Dear Dad, Love Dominic

Posted by on Jul 10, 2014 in Written by Dominic | 0 comments

Dear Dad, Love Dominic

Dear Daddy, How’s your week in Southern Laos going? I sure hope you come back well-rested because Mum says that Friday night we’re all yours. If the last two nights are anything to go by, that means either Alex or I are going to be awake and eager to party with you between 1am and 5am. Can’t wait! Mama and I have been having all sorts of fun in the wee hours. Last night, for example, we had two trips to the kitchen for juice, two trips for medicine, and I made Mama say the word “no” 5489023 times. At 4am, when she thought I was finally asleep again, I wiggled over close to her and...

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A note from the messy middle

Posted by on Jan 22, 2014 in Mike's cancer journey | 17 comments

A note from the messy middle

I walked into the kitchen last night to find Mike lying on the floor clutching his foot, a pool of blood spreading rapidly beneath him. “Go get gloves,” Mike said. We’d both been given several lectures on how to handle Mike’s bodily fluids during chemo. The first step of the process is always gloves. Two pairs of them. As Mike’s Dad took the lead on wrapping his foot, I ran for the car keys. “We’ve got to go to the hospital,” I said. “Lismore,” Mike said. “Ballina,” I said. “Lismore knows more about how to handle oncology patients when they come into emergency,”...

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Chutes, ladders, and staging

Posted by on Jan 10, 2014 in Mike's cancer journey | 19 comments

Chutes, ladders, and staging

I’ve heard people talk about the “cancer roller coaster” but to me, so far, this has felt more like a game of chutes and ladders. Did you play that as a kid? Do you remember how you’d be making careful, square-by-square progress, only to land on a chute and suddenly find yourself dropped down two levels? I was standing in a crowded marketplace in Thailand when I met up with Mike after his initial appointment. I had Alex strapped to my chest in the Ergo and an unhappy Dominic on a toddler leash. Hearing “I have a tumor” come out of Mike’s mouth was a very big chute. We used the...

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Mike’s cancer: Our initial plans

Posted by on Jan 3, 2014 in Mike's cancer journey | 15 comments

Mike’s cancer: Our initial plans

Friends, We’ve arrived safely in Australia (albeit minus things like my prescription sunglasses, the boys immunization records, and vitamins – which were all forgotten in the scramble to get packed). I’m also minus my voice. I got a bad cold on Monday and it got worse and worse as we packed. I was a sexy sort of hoarse by the time we landed in Brisbane (it was the only thing remotely sexy about me after a day and a half on 10 minutes sleep) but now my voice is completely gone. I’m sure Dominic is enjoying the break from “no”, but I’d sure like to be able to participate in the...

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Our not-so-happy New Years news… Mike has cancer

Posted by on Dec 31, 2013 in Mike's cancer journey | 40 comments

Our not-so-happy New Years news… Mike has cancer

Happy New Years!! So. Two days ago we learned Mike has testicular cancer. Amazing, isn’t it, how your life can change on a dime as the result of two words? Here is what we know. The tumor needs to come out as soon as possible. After surgery the tumor will be analyzed to tell us what stage the cancer’s at and what combination of chemo and radiation will be best. Assuming chemo is needed, the sooner it starts, the better. It seems a better strategy, for several reasons, to have Mike’s surgery and treatment course run out of the same hospital and overseen by the same team. It’s also not...

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Normal life is taking all my time

Posted by on Apr 23, 2013 in Miscellaneous | 4 comments

Normal life is taking all my time

“What have you been up to this morning?” Mikes asked me via Skype from Bangkok. “I didn’t even get online until 10:45 today,” I told him, still stunned. “I’ve been changing diapers and emptying trash cans and replacing toilet rolls and tidying up rooms and making beds and cooking breakfast and doing laundry and hanging out laundry and … normal life is taking all my time!” “There’s a post title,” Mike said. (Apparently, not only is normal life taking all my time but the events of the past months have taken all of my creative energy, so Mike has started to point out...

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Great news, good news, and bad news

Posted by on Mar 25, 2013 in Life in Laos | 14 comments

Great news, good news, and bad news

We’re back home in Luang Prabang after our week in Krabi and our whirlwind day in the hospital during the return trip. It’s been bittersweet unpacking and settling back in. “Sweet” because it’s always nice to come home and unpack and settle into a familiar space. “Bitter” because this won’t be home for very much longer … not even as long as we’d thought it would be, because times and plans are a-changing.  There are several posts I’d like to write at the moment, but time is tight so philosophical musings about conflicting wants in life and that sort of stuff will just...

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Adding insult to serious injury

Posted by on Aug 4, 2012 in Miscellaneous | 7 comments

Adding insult to serious injury

Until this afternoon the title of this post was going to be “I can’t be bothered to write an update” because that’s how I’ve felt since Wednesday – exhausted and pretty much completely uninterested in my computer, my blog, my book, my job, and the outside world. So instead of blogging I’ve been walking myself and Dominic back and forth from the hotel to the hospital two to three times a day to visit Mike and crawling (collapsing) into bed in the afternoons when Dominic goes down for a nap. The rest of the time I’ve been focused on keeping the youngest member of this family...

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Searching for silver in storm clouds

Posted by on Aug 1, 2012 in Miscellaneous | 11 comments

Searching for silver in storm clouds

It’s been ages since I wrote a post in my series about fruits of the spirit. I’ve felt a bit stuck on the theme of kindness – trying to think of something new and fresh to say on the topic. Or perhaps I should just say that I’ve felt stuck “trying to think”. It’s been a busy, exhausting couple of months. Most of the time right now I feel as if I’m walking around with half a working brain, a quarter of my personality, twice my normal quotient of irritability and anxiety, and not a single flicker of creative inspiration. These last few months have not been my favorite season of...

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Back to Thailand, back to hospital

Posted by on Jul 30, 2012 in Miscellaneous | 4 comments

Back to Thailand, back to hospital

So the fact that I actually broke my ankle ten weeks ago instead of just spraining it wasn’t the worst medical news we received last week. That was the news that Mike herniated a disc in his back in March bending over to pick up Dominic. Mike’s been in significant and increasing pain for the past five months, so last week on his way to Sri Lanka for work he stopped for the day at our favorite stomping ground in Bangkok, Bumrungrad Hospital, to see a specialist. The specialist sent him off for an MRI (same day, no waiting, hooray for Bumrungrad) and the MRI confirmed the disc rupture. The...

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