Posts Tagged "motherhood"

Timeless Choices

Posted by on Apr 8, 2013 in Life in Laos, Parenting | 8 comments

Timeless Choices

Christmas was just a couple of weeks ago, right? I remember thinking that I needed to write a post on books I’d loved in 2012, set some creative goals for 2013, and find a great birthday present for Mike to make up for the fact that my Christmas presents consisted of some basil seeds, my old broken kindle, and a child’s toy with a bite taken out it. But now it’s April. I still need to do all of that, and Mike’s birthday was in the beginning of March. I’m taking a deep, soothing breath and telling myself that this is to be expected when you live in a small town whose slogan is...

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Rewired: Mama brain

Posted by on Oct 20, 2012 in Lisa and Mike dialogues | 4 comments

Rewired: Mama brain

It’s baby bath time. I’m sitting on the toilet lid. Mike is perched on a small stool. Dominic is sitting in his little plastic tub, playing. As Mike and I are chatting, Dominic tries to squeeze water out of his toy duck, fails, and lets out a sudden, shrill screech of rage and frustration that is loud enough to be heard in China. Me: “Dominic!! Really! Totally unnecessary.” Mike: “Dominic, every time you make that sound you take ten minutes off your mama’s life because she thinks you’re being eaten by vultures. You’re right here, she can see you, and it still makes her think...

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“This is completely my fault” and other things I’ve said this morning

Posted by on Apr 22, 2012 in Travel | 14 comments

“This is completely my fault” and other things I’ve said this morning

I drifted off close to midnight last night and woke up in a panic at 3:45AM, remembering that I had not informed the taxi that was picking me up for the airport at 4:30 that I needed a car seat for Dominic. I spent at least three minutes frantically trying to figure out how I was going to rectify this mistake, before remembering that Dominic was in Washington DC and would not be in this taxi with me. All that flustered worry, wasted, when what I should have been worrying about was the fact that I’d booked my return flights to Washington DC for Sunday April 29th instead of Sunday April 22nd....

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In which I say I’m a good mother

Posted by on Mar 19, 2012 in Parenting | 24 comments

In which I say I’m a good mother

“I’m a bad mother.” Even as I heard myself say those words to Mike last week on the phone, I cringed. Mike was away for most of the week, so I was parenting solo, and Dominic had a wracking, chesty cough that started up whenever I put him down to sleep. At first we thought the cough was due to the shocking air quality in Luang Prabang at present – it’s grey and smoky and ash is falling from the sky because everyone’s burning their rice fields in preparation for planting. But after the cough had hung around for ten days, I enlisted the help of a Lao-speaking friend and went in...

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Fifteen years of longsuffering

Posted by on Mar 12, 2012 in Parenting | 16 comments

Fifteen years of longsuffering

It has been the month of patience. Or, maybe more appropriately, it has been the month of patience being tested. The last six weeks has held one broken leg (Dominic), two courses of antibiotics for intestinal infections (Mike and me), three trips to Thailand (all of us), and five colds. It’s been more than a month since Dominic broke his leg and I still don’t want to write about it. Truth be told, I don’t even want to think about it. Because every time I remember hearing the crash after Mike’s mother slipped and landed on the stairs, then the long pause, then that awful, piercing...

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Practices of Parenting

Posted by on Feb 10, 2012 in Parenting | 5 comments

Practices of Parenting

A blogger I read regularly, Sarah Bessey, has been hosting a Practices of Parenting Carnival this week, where she invited readers to submit posts on their practices of parenting via a link-up. (You can find all of Sarah’s original practices of parenthood posts here.) The response was extraordinary – 117 posts and counting! I linked up my Peace Like A River post, and over the last couple of days I’ve looked at all of the other posts that bloggers linked to on Sarah’s site.  They were heart-felt and moving and some were gorgeous. Here are seven that stood out to me. Making Mama...

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Peace Like A River

Posted by on Jan 23, 2012 in Parenting | 34 comments

Peace Like A River

Two weeks after Dominic was born, Mike announced that he was going out for a bike ride. “Just a 50km loop,” he said. “I’ll be back within two hours.” I nodded and told him to have a good ride, but that wasn’t what I wanted to do. I wanted to cry. I wanted to clutch him and beg him not to go. I wanted to demand that he tell me how I would survive if a car hit him – which happens to cyclists all the time, you know – while he was being so irresponsible as to be out riding for fun. Fun. What was he thinking to be indulging in something so very dangerous and call it fun? I had...

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24 things that have surprised me about motherhood: I never thought I would…

Posted by on Jan 16, 2012 in Parenting | 16 comments

24 things that have surprised me about motherhood: I never thought I would…

Everyone says motherhood is full of surprises. They’re right. Here are 24 of mine. I never thought I would… 1. Leak milk at the sight of a puppy. 2. Wipe up baby spew with clothing that I am wearing. 3. Consider 6 a.m. on a Sunday almost a sleep-in. 4. Refer to my spouse as “daddy” more frequently than I call him by name. 5. Still have my child sleeping right beside my bed 5 months after his birth. 6. Still want my child to sleep right beside my bed 5 months after his birth. 7. Catch poo with my bare hands. 8.Find myself physically incapable of letting the baby cry for longer than 57...

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More than a brighter shade of happiness

Posted by on Dec 23, 2011 in Parenting | 12 comments

More than a brighter shade of happiness

“What have you been thinking about joy recently?” Mike asked me over lunch the other day. “I’ve been thinking about that research suggesting that people are happier before they have children,” I said. “And about how happiness and joy are different.” “Are you going to write the easy post about how you often feel less happy on a moment to moment basis since Dominic’s birth, but you have more joy in your life?” Mike asked. “No,” I said. “Because, although I would like to think that this is true, I’m not actually sure that it is.” Despite the fact that joy is the...

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Seeking The Fruits Of Motherhood

Posted by on Aug 29, 2011 in Parenting | 25 comments

Seeking The Fruits Of Motherhood

Three weeks after my first child was born, my uncle leaned towards my husband, Mike, over the dinner table. “It would be nice,” he said, “to see something positive on Lisa’s blog about the baby.” This comment was directed at Mike because I wasn’t actually at the dinner table with everyone else; I was sitting on the couch with my breast firmly planted in the mouth of the small and needy mammal that was under discussion. And the reason I was sitting on the couch was because the little mammal had been almost inconsolable after we fed him just before leaving for dinner, let him sleep...

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